Limitless Adventures in Pawrenting

Describe a phase in life that was difficult to say goodbye to.

There are seasons in life that do not end.

They dissolve.

And the hardest ones to release are not the longest — but the most concentrated.

I came back from my travels in December with a quiet vow stitched into my chest: I would give Romo all my time. No distractions. No divided loyalties. Just us. I did not know I was stepping into a goodbye.

Romo — my Belgian Malinois, my storm of muscle and loyalty — had always been intensity embodied. But those last three months, something shifted. The chaos softened. The urgency thinned. It was as if both of us sensed a curtain lowering somewhere in the distance, though neither of us named it.

His illness crept in without drama. There was no cinematic warning. Just small changes. A tiredness. A pause in his stride. The kind of subtle recalibration you can almost ignore — until you cannot.

Those three months became sacred.

Time rearranged itself. My days revolved around his breathing, his appetite, the rhythm of his rest. I watched him the way one watches the horizon before a storm — alert, reverent, afraid. And in that vigilance, something almost spiritual unfolded between us.

We had always shared loyalty. But now we shared awareness.

He began looking at me differently. Not as his handler. Not as the source of commands or structure. But as if memorizing me. There were moments when his eyes held mine with a stillness that felt ancient. As if he was saying: Stay present. This is it.

And I did.

I sat on floors more. I delayed outings. I rearranged priorities without resentment. The world narrowed beautifully. It was just breath and fur and the quiet weight of his head resting against my thigh.

Grief, I learned, begins before death.

It begins in the noticing.

In the way you start measuring moments.

In the way every ordinary act — refilling a water bowl, brushing his coat, stepping outside into cold air — feels edged with fragility.

When February came, it did not ask permission.

Saying goodbye to Romo was not dramatic. It was intimate. It was the quiet shattering of a daily rhythm that had structured my adulthood. For years, he had been the axis around which my discipline, my finances, my routines revolved. He had trained me into responsibility. Into endurance. Into devotion that did not negotiate.

And then suddenly — silence.

The leash hung unused.

The house echoed.

My body kept waking at the hour he used to nudge me.

The difficult part was not just losing him. It was losing the version of myself that existed in relation to him. The vigilant one. The caretaker. The woman whose day was dictated by paws on hardwood floors.

That phase was difficult to say goodbye to because it was pure.

There was no ego in it. No performance. Just presence.

Those three months taught me something about love that no human relationship ever had: that love can be both anticipatory and accepting. I knew we were running out of time. And yet I was also strangely calm. As if the bond between us had moved beyond fear.

We had built something beyond ownership.

We built surrender.

When I said goodbye, I was not just letting go of Romo. I was releasing a season of concentrated tenderness — a compressed lifetime in ninety days. I was saying farewell to the version of myself who had the privilege of loving him in that heightened, almost sacred awareness.

Some phases are difficult to say goodbye to because they were happy.

Some because they were painful.

But the hardest ones are the ones that were transformative.

Romo’s final months did not just break me.

They refined me.

And I think the ache remains not because I lost him — but because that rare, luminous intensity of being fully present with another soul is something I have never experienced in quite the same way again.

It was brief.

It was sacred.

And it changed the architecture of my heart.

Do you believe in fate/destiny?

I used to think destiny was something dramatic.

A lightning strike.

A once-in-a-lifetime love.

A door that opens and rearranges the architecture of your future in a single afternoon.

But if I am honest with myself — destiny has always arrived disguised as a dog.

When I adopted Romo, my Belgian Malinois, I did not think I was stepping into fate. I thought I was adopting a companion. A protector. A creature who needed a home. What I did not understand then was that he was also adopting me — into responsibility, into devotion, into a version of myself that did not flinch from commitment.

Romo did not feel like destiny. He felt like chaos wrapped in muscle and intelligence. He demanded structure. Patience. Financial discipline. Early mornings. Emotional steadiness. He was not ornamental love. He was formative love.

Looking back now, I see something unsettling.

He arrived a few years before Sauli walked into my life.

And Romo trained me.

Not for obedience — but for endurance.

If you had asked me then whether I believed in fate, I would have rolled my eyes. I have always been suspicious of narratives that suggest we are puppets of some invisible script. I believe in agency. In will. In choosing differently.

But here is what I cannot ignore:

Certain beings enter your life at precise thresholds.

Romo came before a season of deep emotional transformation. Before rupture. Before the kind of love that rearranges your nervous system. He anchored me into my body. Into consistency. Into caretaking. He taught me that love is not fantasy — it is logistics. It is showing up every day whether you are tired, heartbroken, or lost.

If destiny exists, I do not think it looks like prophecy.

I think it looks like preparation.

Perhaps fate is not about meeting the “right” person at the “right” time. Perhaps it is about becoming the version of yourself capable of surviving what is about to unfold.

Romo prepared my nervous system for intensity. For loyalty that does not waver. For loving something that might not love you back in the language you expect — but loves you in action, in presence, in breath.

And when Sauli entered my life later, I was not the same woman.

I had already practiced devotion.

I had already learned that love can be both grounding and wild. Protective and demanding. Gentle and fierce.

Do I believe in destiny?

Not in the cinematic way.

I believe in convergences.

In timing that feels almost architectural.

In the way certain souls — human or animal — intercept your life exactly when your interior scaffolding is being built.

Romo was not an accident.

Neither was Sauli.

And neither were the detours, the heartbreaks, the migrations between cities and selves.

If there is destiny, it is not controlling me.

It is collaborating with me.

It is placing teachers in my path — sometimes with four legs — and watching whether I am willing to learn.

And I have learned this much:

Fate is not about being chosen.

It is about being shaped.